I’ve never been very adept at approaching women,” I say. “I’m a great responder. If you show up crying in my office, I’m golden. But starting has always been harder for me. Because no matter what I’m saying, you know I’m just saying it to break the ice, so that I can ask you out. so that we can go out, and if that goes well, so that we can have sex. So basically, I go from being this nice guy with no agenda to a sleazy asshole who’s trying to sleep with you before he even knows you.